Hello! So here we are again, my annual post for World Mental Health Awareness day. Today marks four years since my initial post back in 2017 which I was planning on writing anyway back in the day, but the time I was going to post it happened to line up with such an important day. From then on I’ve continued with this tradition of sharing a post focused on the theme of mental health. If you go back you can see the different types of posts there’s been over the years – they’re under a subcategory of Mental Health Awareness Day if you scroll down to find them!
This year I wanted to talk about keeping a grasp on yourself, especially in the world of musical theatre. When I get into an episode of poor mental health I find it difficult to keep hold of myself. Things that make me feel like me suddenly lose their joy and meaning. For example, I love to sing, it’s something I feel confident doing. However, when I’m not feeling 100% emotionally the voice that comes out of my mouth feels and sounds, to me, nothing like me. I zone out and sing because I ‘have’ to when taking class etc. In turn, this adds to feeling low because it’s something I usually find joy in but suddenly I’m not, therefore, creating a vicious cycle that slowly bleeds into the rest of my life.
When my mental health begins to go through a rough patch, simple activities get tricky and I lose myself further. It’s fairly common for routine habits to crumble when one’s mental health slips. Personally, I struggle to keep my space clean, my appetite changes which means my diet is poor and timekeeping is a nightmare – everything either drags or speeds by. These are all totally normal responses to a change in your emotional state, they’re not necessarily healthy but they’re common so when I’m out the other side after feeling down I try not to feel guilty of the time I spent in that state.
Routine is a big one for me. I’m a creature of habit so when that changes I sometimes get anxious. Currently, I’m in the middle of working out a new routine since starting college last month. The course I am taking is full-on. With an average of seven hours of intense practical study each day plus the daily commute, it’s definitely something I’ve had to get used to, anyway, but especially after the past eighteen months of lockdowns. The workload is also very high so finding time to do the independent study alongside the timetabled work and then just trying to be a normal human outside of the musical theatre world takes its toll.
I get to the weekend and sit on my bed like “wtf, who am I?” because I’ve been so focused on the tasks at hand during the week I’ve pushed normal life aside so then when it comes to seeing family, doing the washing, going out etc, reality hits and I feel a bit lost. I then get to the “Sunday Scaries” where the new week ahead fills me with anxiousnesses and, honestly, a bit of dread. It’s nothing specific that causes it, just the nature of what I do feeling very real after switching off for a bit. I love what I do and when I’m back in the swing of things by Monday lunchtime I’m enjoying it.
Being faced with that mountain of anxiety on a Sunday night is normal because the nature of musical theatre is jam-packed. It’s always going at a million miles per hour and you’ve got to find ways to keep up with the demand without losing yourself. In a world where you’re supposed to be a creative individual, it can sometimes seem impossible to not feel like a vocal sirening, Shakespeare quoting, Matt Mattox arm-waving zombie. With that in mind, here are three things I personally find help me when things are starting to get particularly overwhelming to maintain a sense of self:
1 – Find an incentive to get you through the week
Ideally, this incentive will be away from the world/work you do daily. This week, I got through with the intention that on Friday I would sit and watch Black Widow as it was released on Disney+ this week. It’s a film with happy memories and it was the first time I watched it since seeing it in cinemas back in July so the fact I got to relive that happy time helped me through this week. This incentive is away from my world of training/study but it can be linked if you wanted. I’m also pushing through to half term as I’m excited to return to some of my favourite open dance classes I can’t take in term time because of scheduling.
2 – Tell someone how you feel.
Perhaps the most valuable way of helping yourself out of a mental health funk. I know it may seem like an “obvious” thing to list but it’s often forgotten in practice. So here is a little reminder to speak up as soon as you can when you don’t feel right. If it doesn’t feel better in a day or so please let somebody know. A naff few days aren’t fun but they usually pass in their own time, however, if it persists and feels too heavy to shake alone make sure you give someone a heads up.
3 – Release and Recharge
Take time away to reconnect with something you have loved for a long while. It could be music, a book, a sport, a hobby… basically, just give something a go which you’ve not done for a while. It could reawaken something positive – music helps me with this. I’ve had a really awful two weeks but listening to both Hamilton and On Your Feet for the first time in a long while has made me feel much more connected to myself. However, doing this could also have the potential to make you sad again if you can’t find yourself within that something special. So, linking back to point two, tell someone if you’re stuck and are struggling to find a way to lift your spirit.
I’m no mental health professional, these are just things I try to do when I’m feeling low. The past week in particular has been super difficult personally and I just needed space for myself. I will level with you, I’m still far from feeling 100% but I’ll be going into Monday in a better headspace than Thursday night.
The relationship we have with ourselves and our mental well-being is an ever-changing one. A journey if you will. Some days will be better than others and one of the most consistent characters in this time is YOU. Sometimes we lose our ways and that’s okay, finding our way back in the most constructive manner can be difficult but it IS doable. When you reconnect with yourself it’s the most emotional and soul affirming thing. Looking at this photo below of sixteen year old Abi who had never danced before I think about how she would feel knowing what twenty year old me is doing right now and also how I feel about doing it. She’d be amazed but also slightly perplexed at why the thing she’d dreamed about sometimes makes her anxious. But she’d be okay with that, the most important thing to her is that older abi finds a way to keep going through the storm.
Little steps to get back to the thing which means the most to her. Just hold on. ❤️